How to Build Self-Worth and Confidence from Within: the goddess energy you crave
In case no one told you, to reclaim your goddess energy and to feel worthy, you don’t need to be more productive, more successful, or more liked.
But in a world that constantly pushes women to do more, be more, and look perfect doing it, it’s easy to forget how inherently valuable you already are.
If you’ve been asking yourself things like:
How do I build self-worth?
Why don’t I feel worthy—no matter what I achieve?
How can I improve my self-confidence and stop doubting myself all the time?
You’re not alone. These are questions I hear all the time from the women I coach.
As a mindfulness coach who blends feminine embodiment into everything I do, I created this guide to help you come back to yourself and start to trust yourself.
Whether you’ve been spiraling in comparison, dimming your light in order to be accepted, or looking for self-worth outside of yourself, this is for you.
This post is part of an ongoing series called Reclaiming Your Goddess Energy, where I’ll guide you—step by step—back to your inner power. And we begin right here, with Step One: Reclaiming Your Worthiness.
Reclaiming Your Self-Worth
You’ve probably Googled “how to build self-worth.” a time or two, maybe you’ve downloaded the self-worth worksheets, listened to the podcasts, read the books, followed the self-help ‘gurus’. You’ve done the morning routines. You’ve tried to “think positive.” You’ve ticked every box, hoping something would finally make you feel enough.
And still… there’s that nagging voice. That ache in your chest. That sense that you’re falling short of something invisible but essential.
So many women are stuck in that loop, looking outside of themselves, believing that worthiness is something to be earned. That if you achieve enough, look good enough, please everyone enough, then maybe you’ll finally feel whole.
But here’s the truth: your worth isn’t out there. It’s in you.
Get clear on your values.
One of the most powerful ways to reconnect with it is to get clear on your values. (Don’t know your core values? Here’s a free 15-minute workshop to find them.)
Your core values, things like honesty, freedom, creativity, presence, are the soul-level qualities that define who you are beneath the surface.
When you don’t know what you stand for, it’s easy to shapeshift to be liked. But when you do, you begin to live from the inside out.
You stop chasing validation. You start making decisions that feel aligned. And most importantly—you stop abandoning yourself for approval.
When you live from your values:
You build trust with yourself
You create boundaries that protect your energy
You feel more grounded and confident in your choices
Knowing your values is how you begin to choose you.
It’s how you shift from wondering if you’re enough… to knowing that you are.
But here’s the truth: your worth isn’t out there. It’s in you.
When you wrap your identity around what you do, how you look, or who chooses you, you end up chasing validation and losing connection to your core.
Self-worth comes from within. It starts when you stop abandoning yourself to be accepted.
Before Reading Any Further Try this:
Journal: Where do I currently seek my sense of worth? Who am I trying to be enough for?
Mirror Practice: Look at yourself and say, “I choose you. You are enough.”
This simple self-worth affirmation may feel awkward at first, but it begins to rewire your brain and rebuild your confidence from the inside out.
Make Friends with Your Inner Critic
You can’t learn how to build the self-confidence you crave and step into your goddess energy while letting your inner critic run the show.
That voice, the one that says you’re not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, worthy enough, is often the loudest barrier between you and your self-worth.
The inner critic often shows up in the vulnerable moments, after a mistake, when you get rejected, when you’re about to try something new and bold. It creeps in with doubts, judgment, and worst-case scenarios.
It tells you to doubt yourself. To stay small. To avoid getting hurt.
But here’s what most people don’t tell you: your inner critic is simply trying to protect you.
It was shaped by past experiences, times when you felt rejected, shamed, or not good enough. It learned that if it could get ahead of the criticism, maybe you wouldn’t feel the sting.
But in doing so, it also stifled your voice, your courage, and your confidence.
So instead of trying to silence it, start to understand it. Make space for it. And most importantly, start a new dialogue and flip the script.
Here’s how to begin improving your self-worth by shifting your inner narrative:
Notice when the critic shows up. Get curious: What triggered it? What is it afraid of?
Pause and ask: “Is this actually true?”
Reframe the thought with compassion. Ask: “What would my most loving, grounded self say in this moment?”
If your critic says, “Why would they choose you?” respond with, “Why wouldn’t they? I’m kind, capable, and have so much to offer.”
If it says, “You always mess things up,” respond with, “I’m learning. Mistakes don’t make me define my worthiness; if anything, they show me how human I am, and being human alone makes me worthy.”
Try this reflective exercise:
Write down 3 common phrases your inner critic says
For each one, rewrite them into a truth that your inner wise woman or goddess self knows to be more accurate.
Turn these into daily affirmations you say aloud in the mirror
This is how we reclaim our voice. This is how we build self-worth from the inside out.
The more you support yourself, the more unshakable your confidence becomes.
Write down the harshest thing your critic says, then rewrite it as a loving truth. This is one of the most effective ways to build self-confidence over time.
Choose You, choose your goddess energy
While it is important, reclaiming your self-worth isn’t just about self-talk, it also needs self-action.
It’s one thing to say, I’m worthy. It’s another to live like you believe it.
Choosing yourself means honoring your own needs, desires, and boundaries. Especially when it feels hard, and especially when someone else doesn’t.
It’s in those moments, when the text doesn’t come, when the date fizzles out, when the opportunity slips away, that we’re most vulnerable to spiraling into self-doubt.
What did I do wrong? Why didn’t they want me? Am I not enough?
We’ve been taught to equate being chosen with being worthy.
That someone else’s “yes” somehow validates our existence. But here’s the truth: someone else’s inability to see your light says nothing about your value.
This is the moment you come home to you.
Instead of abandoning yourself, you lean in.
Instead of asking, Why didn’t they choose me?, you whisper:
I choose me.
Choosing yourself means:
Giving yourself the love you’ve been waiting for
Staying rooted in your truth even when others walk away
Tending to your needs without apology
No longer dimming your light to be liked or abandoning your boundaries to feel accepted
This is radical. This is reclaiming.
And yes, it’s not easy at first, it’s a practice.
Try this when you feel small, rejected, or unworthy:
Place your hands on your heart and belly. Close your eyes.
Breathe deeply and say: “I choose you. I will not leave you. You are worthy of the deepest love, and it begins here.”
Ask yourself: What does choosing myself look like right now?
Do one small thing that affirms it, this could mean a nourishing meal, setting a boundary, a walk, a mirror affirmation, a no.
Choosing yourself isn’t about being perfect or untouchable. It’s about staying with yourself no matter what. It’s about becoming your own anchor, your own source of love, your own sacred home.
Every time you choose you, you rebuild trust. You send a message to your nervous system that says: You’re safe here. You’re loved here. You’re enough here.
And from that place, everything shifts.
Final Words: The Path to Worthiness Starts Within
There’s no quick fix to self-worth. No one-size-fits-all worksheet that will heal it overnight. But these practices: reclaiming your worth, rewriting your inner narrative, and choosing yourself again and again, will change your life.
So if you’ve been searching for:
How to build self-worth
Self-worth affirmations that actually work
How to feel worthy without external validation
A grounded, feminine way to improve your self-confidence
…this is your path.
And this is just the beginning. We’re only at the start of the Reclaiming Your Goddess Energy series.
In the posts to come, we’ll continue to explore the deeper layers of your feminine power, truth, embodiment, and inner wisdom.
You are already worthy. You don’t need to prove anything. You don’t need to earn your place. You just need to remember who you are—and keep coming back to her.
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